How to meet the right partner
Clients often tell me that they are frustrated that they have not yet met the right partner, and wonder why. They want to be in a relationship and are frustrated that it’s not happening for them.
I’ve found that navigating the world of dating and relationships today takes equal measures of guts, smarts, patience, and a strong dose of optimism. A lot of energy is spent putting on the best face when two people meet for the first time – yet frequently psychological barriers keep us from achieving the objective we so often desire.
If not being in a relationship is holding you back from having the life you crave, let’s work together to:
- Set realistic goals – what are you looking for in a relationship, and what is getting in the way of achieving it?
- Take a trip down memory lane. Let’s review your past relationships – what has worked and what hasn’t? Is there something that is holding you back from having a healthy relationship? Let’s make an honest appraisal of the past and make sure it’s not impacting your present and future.
- Create a dating plan that suits your level of comfort and commitment. There are so many choices today for single people in regards to how to meet a partner. Let’s create a plan that will work for you.
- Learn how to be yourself. It’s always best to be your true and honest self when starting a new relationship. However, many of us have in securitities that hold us back from letting our potential partners know who we really are. I will equip you with tools to overcome shyness, fear of intimacy, and other potential stumbling blocks that may be inhibiting you from moving forward and getting what you want in a relationship.
- A little patience can go a long way – Finding the right relationship takes time. It’s important to try to stay positive and optimistic and learn from experiences and mistakes. Feeling desperate or hopeless will only derail the process and make you feel unhappy. Limit the pressure you put on yourself, hang in there, and try to enjoy the ride.
Relationships rarely die overnight. Almost always, the destruction of a couple happens little by little, over time.
Your relationship may be in trouble if you are experiencing:
- Communication breakdown
- Diminished sexual desire and activity level
- Replaying old arguments and resurrecting old hurts
- Resentment and contempt have replaced patience and love
- One or both of you are having an affair
We saw Rachel when we were engaged and having major in-law problems that were interfering with the planning of our wedding. We were bickering a lot and couldn’t seem to resolve these problems on our own, and that’s why we decided to go for counseling. Rachel helped us to discuss these problems without being defensive, and taught us that we had a right to set limits with our families. We found the process very helpful, and we continue to call on her when our relationship needs a tune up.
Diane (28) & James (29)