What brings couples into relationship counseling?

If you and your partner are seeking couples therapy, it’s likely there are many reasons why you are pursuing this path.

Partners come into couples or marriage counseling with a variety of issues to address including communication & conflict resolution, sexual & intimacy issues, fighting and anger problems, identity and role conflict, dependence vs. independence, jealousy, parenting, infidelity, money and finance challenges, addiction, family and in-law struggles, step family issues, gender roles, infertility / adoption, and much more. Whatever you and your partner are grappling with, there is a very good chance that couples counseling can help improve your current situation.

Who can benefit from couples counseling?

Any couple looking to improve any aspect of their relationship can benefit from couples counseling. I work with a huge variety of couples at all stages in their lives and relationships including:

  • Dating Couples
  • Engaged Couples and couples wishing to utilize my pre-marital counseling program
  • Married couples AND couples in long-term relationships not defined by marriage
  • Second marriages and blended families
  • Same sex relationships
  • Mixed-race/ ethnicity marriages and relationships
  • Open and other non-traditional relationships
  • Relationships with a large disparity in age
  • Long distance relationships
  • Transgender or gender-nonconforming members of a relationship
  • Couples who are considering breaking up or divorcing and would like to work towards conscious uncoupling
  • Co-parents who are separated or divorced and want to develop a better relationship

Getting started with couples therapy

While many couples come to see me and are ready to get to work, there’s understandably a good deal of trepidation regarding the process of counseling. Often one partner is more comfortable with the idea than the other – and that is totally normal.

I work hard to make the first few appointments as comfortable for you as possible. I fully understand that it takes time to build a rapport and relationship between client and therapist and to get the full history of your relationship.

How I approach couples counseling:

I view couples therapy as extremely collaborative and I use a strong team approach to get quick results. I am very involved in the session at all times and will honestly communicate to you what I see, feel and think. I begin by establishing a vision for the relationship, which incorporates the ideals of both members. My office becomes a safe haven, where problems can be discussed without fear of pain, shame, judgment or retribution. Our consultation time is used as a living laboratory, a place where we can explore different styles, interventions and techniques. These can be used to change hurtful and destructive patterns in the relationship and create a stronger, more open and meaningful connection.

What do I expect from you as my client?

I expect a serious commitment to our work, an ability to be open when looking what you bring into the relationship (both positive and negative) without defensiveness, and a commitment to explore altering your own ineffectual behaviors. When these conditions are met, there is an excellent chance that I can not only help you get your relationship back on track, but take you to an even stronger place. One you may not have ever imagined was possible, but was achievable through our couples counseling sessions.

Benefits of couples counseling:

Working together as a team, I will guide you to:

  • Understand the ways in which you presently communicate and then teach you new skills and solutions to improve ways to talk and to listen to each other.
  • Identify negative patterns that are hindering the quality of your relationship and friendship.
  • Learn how to stop blaming each other so you can work through problems more effectively.
  • Argue more productively.
  • Reconnect to the love and passion of your earlier relationship.

How much does couples therapy cost?

Please contact me directly for my fee. Although I don’t accept insurance, some insurance plans reimburse for a portion of therapy. I am well aware that therapy can be a financial challenge and thus my goal is to help you as quickly and efficiently as possible.

Schedule an initial session:

You can feel free to call or email me to discuss your current situation and ask me questions about the process, which may include questions regarding scheduling, what to expect in the first appointment and fees.

Facts on couples counseling

How long does couples counseling last?

Many people ask this question. The answer depends on the severity of problem and how willing each partner is to tackle it. Some couples come for only a few sessions while others tend to stay awhile. I can help you assess what’s needed after an initial meeting.

How often do we need to see Rachel?

The average couple comes to see me weekly. The more time and effort is put into the counseling, the quicker changes can happen.

What if my partner won’t attend counseling?

You are welcome to come to therapy on your own to work on your relationship. Research shows that even if one person is willing to make changes, the relationship dynamic can change too.

How will we know if counseling is working?

It can take a few sessions or a few months to flesh out all of your relationship challenges and work towards modifications. I will help you set, monitor and achieve goals. If you value your relationship and take the counseling seriously, you will see results.

Do you only work with married couples?

All couples are welcome – married or not.

Early Signs:

Relationships rarely die overnight. Almost always, the destruction of a couple happens little by little, over time.
Your relationship may be in trouble if you are experiencing:

  • Communication breakdown
  • Diminished sexual desire and activity level
  • Replaying old arguments and resurrecting old hurts
  • Resentment and contempt have replaced patience and love
  • One or both of you are having an affair


We saw Rachel when we were engaged and having major in-law problems that were interfering with the planning of our wedding. We were bickering a lot and couldn’t seem to resolve these problems on our own, and that’s why we decided to go for counseling. Rachel helped us to discuss these problems without being defensive, and taught us that we had a right to set limits with our families. We found the process very helpful, and we continue to call on her when our relationship needs a tune up.

Diane (28) & James (29)

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